We started this magazine on an idea and the goodwill of generous and accomplished contributors. With this issue, we acknowledge the successful end of our first year!
This magazine was instrumental in the Natural Products New Zealand award that we won in March 2012, where we were recognized with the James and Wells Intellectual Property Excellence in Marketing Award. We won in a billion dollar industry with entries from businesses far larger than ours… many with an actual marketing ‘department’, which for Goodbye Sandfly, consists of me on a Monday. I think we won because what we’re doing is more about creativity, enthusiasm and education than it is about our product. In my acceptance speech I said that when you treat customers as family, it comes back to you in ways that cannot be measured by a financial statement, but are infinitely valuable to everyone. So, I thank you, our family, all 849 of you, thank you.
In this issue I combine gardening with one of my own lessons in emotional intelligence, pretty tricky, huh? In Check it Out, we’ve got seeds lovingly collected by little hands to give away to you. And Check it Out Too is an outline of an interview coming up next week that is available for you to access either live or for 48 hours afterwards.
I have loved the comments and interaction with you over the last year. Would you share with me your favourite issue? The link is at the bottom of this issue. Or you can tell me with the seeds e-mail in Check it Out.
With love, Becky
Happy Family GardeningBecky Cashman
I love this time of the year, with all the promise of a new garden. I like planting seeds as much as the actual harvesting of food that we’ve grown.
I am not new to gardening with kids. I have witnessed two entire seasons where every green strawberry was systematically stripped and consumed. I dealt with the season that all seedling markers were removed. I have watched lettuce seedlings buried head down, plants pulled up, and seeds buried far, far underground. But watching the kids forage is a delight. They know the plants, can scout a good cherry tomato, clear the snow peas in a sitting, and even pull up carrots. Most everything is consumed directly on site, still warm and essentially unwashed.
Today as we were planting bean seeds (good size for little fingers, one tray for each child- own seed packet each) a loud and highly energized debate sprung up around the outraged four-year-old’s desire to not have eight-year-old “help” him water his seeds. Both four and eight-year-olds defended their corners staunchly. Both behaved quite badly. And both were right. Problem was… I felt annoyed, and I mean really upset. I walked away, banned them from the kitchen while I prepared dinner. When I did called them to dinner- I asked them WHY do you have to act so horribly when we were doing such an amazing, magic thing…planting seeds?
For the consciously minded of you, you’ll spot two big gaps. First, WHY is not a high quality question. Better questions for moving forward are How or What. Second, I myself was acting horribly. Indeed.
I ate dinner, then excused myself and went to sit outside at the scene of the show. By this point it was dark and cold out there- but the night clear with a moon and plenty of stars. I still felt angry- and angry that I felt angry- and angry that I felt angry that I felt angry. Whew!! I did not get what I WANTED, and I did not respond well. I wanted Happy Family Gardening. I’ve let go of a lot of myths in my journey of mothering, but tonight I discovered this one alive and well. It probably sits up there with Happy Family Pancake Morning.
I had no idea what the lesson was to be learned, but it was clear there was one. So I sat and talked to the moon and stars. I told them how I felt, I asked some how and what questions. I stated that I was ready to do something new. And then I realized that all of us wanted the same thing, Happy Family Gardening, just different versions. And all of us responded the same way when we did not get what we wanted….. a howl!
Of course the kids were territorial and scrappy, we were dealing with seeds and water! They understood the magic and wanted it to be as perfect as they pictured it, just as I did. Then, I felt lighter. I laughed at Crazy Family Gardening, and understood that it would indeed happen again. Just like Happy Family Pancake Morning often degrades into who gets to stir the mix first.
I get it, just now. Acceptance is a fundamental of living in the moment. I cannot live in the moment if I create myths of how it should be. So, I’ve exposed another fantasy. They are not so hard to let go, once identified. The trick is seeing them in the first place. I’ll let you know how I go next time around. Here’s to gardening, however it comes.
You guys know me! I’m the one who wakes up at night thinking about what I want to discover and create next. My children, John, Goodbye Sandfly and Mind of a Guide keep me fully engaged in a work of bringing forward the best of myself and what I know. I believe in humanity, regardless of our displays of dysfunction. We can re-learn the truth about ourselves. We are natural beings, and we feel better when we acknowledge and live in tune with that truth. Put down your cell phone, pull up a sunset. There is joy to be discovered.
Check it Out- One Year Celebration!
I must celebrate our One Year birthday with my favourite thing: seeds.
Every year I have at least one extremely successful crop. Last summer the stand outs were spaghetti squash, coriander and my first ever swedes.
Eight spaghetti squash plants produced about 50 full-sized beautiful squash. We gave away heaps and have been eating one a week since February, saving the seeds from each one. (I paid the kids a cent for each seed, and learned that there are between 200 and 300 seeds in each squash- they are good counters when money is involved.) These squash were grown well away from all the other pumpkin types and should be true to seed! I’m not sure how many seed packets I’ll get, but lots, and I want to give them away to you.
To get your packet of Spaghetti Squash seeds, just hit reply to this e-mail with your name and address in the body (this is NZ only this time, otherwise we’ll be in trouble with customs for sending seeds across borders). We’ll send them out September 19th to everyone (as long as supplies last, so get your name in early!) Please add a quick message of what you’ve liked about the magazine in the past year and what you want to see more of coming up in the year ahead.
We use Spaghetti Squash just like it sounds, as a pasta replacement, with yummy basil, feta, olive and fresh tomatoes, or just a classic red sauce and parmesan. You bake it first for 25 minutes or so with some water, and just like pasta, you want ‘al dente’, so bake it less rather than more. Use a fork to separate out the fantastic strands into a large bowl or baking dish. One squash easily feeds our family of four.
Check it out Too
The Emotional Intelligence Summit has begun! And the interviews are being posted for 48 hours for you to be able to listen in your own time. The list of interviews is here as well as the sign up for access. I recommend that you look through and choose a few, because access to this level of teaching is quite unique.
My interview with Kim Knight will be posted on September 10th 4pm Pacific Time, which is September 11th at 8am, New Zealand time. Below is the interview description.
Accelerate Emotional Intelligence with Natural Intelligence
With Bex Cashman – Author of ‘Why Natural Matters’, Creator of Goodbye Sandfly and Mind of a Guide (NZ)
- Are you ready to allow your “don’ts” and “shoulds” to dissolve?
- Do you know how to use your body to immediately download energy and wisdom from your surroundings?
- How long has it been since you’ve felt really confident about the life you are living?
Natural intelligence is the accelerated uncovering of emotional intelligence through awake interaction with our natural world. This natural world is supportive of emotional intelligence not only by modeling it, but also giving us oceans of energy, healing and teaching.
This teaching can be powerfully used regardless of rural, town or city circumstances. Are you living a cell phone, computer, or a commuting city life? These nervous system interferences can slow our evolving emotional intelligence. In my seminar, I will outline the Five Levels of Connection, then put them into examples to give you as many grounded and immediately useful tools as possible.
What are you growing?
“Crazy fat little papayas on a Jack & the Papaya Stalk-tree ~ its mutantly huge in compost & rabbit poo!” Sara
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
What’s your Favourite?
Come on over to Facebook to tell us what your favourite issue was in the past year! I’ve listed them below in reverse order, and you can link to any of them through the front page of the magazine.
List and Link to Back issues (in reverse)
Happy Family Gardening
Growing Goodness for Pets
Guardians of the World of Light
Don’t Use Paracetamol for a Fever
What is in a Name?
What the Robin Knows
Fiordland and the Waterfall
Pirates, Promises and Opportunity- OceansWatch
Finding your Voice
GMO- What’s in it for You?
Slowing Down in Thailand
Mountain Man John Muir
Teaching Kids to Surf
Why Would a Dog Wear a Buoyancy Aid?
EMF- The Other Side of Technology
The Pharmacy Tree – Neem for Pets
Food Is Beauty
No Bad Weather